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I don't have any "proven" first messages, but one of my friends is successful and he just writes, "hey" or "sup" in his first message. I'm black and the majority of the women on each site weren't. However, if you're doing mass messaging like I do then you simply can't take the time do break down each girl's profile unless you want to make an afternoon out of it.
It's the second message that he uses to really get them interested. One that ALWAYS ensured a reply back was "I hope you aren't racist". I guess they always replied so that they could validate themselves somewhat so that they don't feel guilty or racist if they didn't reply. The line I've been using to message chicks is: "Hey I checked out your profile and you seem cool. " By saying I checked out their profile it implies that I did actually check them out which I didn't, I just look at their pictures.
The only problem is that the high number of women who are looking for the right partner attracts an even higher number of men who dream about being that perfect partner.
The competition doesn’t sleep and the more men are hoping to get a date with a woman, the more important it gets to set yourself apart from the other guys.
Some respond well to cocky, edgy openers some see right through that and call you out. Drone- this is the hardest for me because these girls want to keep everything boring and their profiles give you nothing to work with.
Ultimately 90% of it comes down to what you look like. Just cuts the bullshit since all that matters most the time is your look. I'm black and the majority of the women on each site weren't. I try to pick out one incongruent detail and hope that she will emerge from her shell.
That's why I stay away from the cute, silly openers. No girl is going to want to go out with some weird looking guy just because he has a witty opener.I'm not going to say these lines always work, but I don't think any line does.Girl's who visit your profile are much more inclined to want to meet, because they clicked on you for a reason (i.e. Anytime a girl has an obvious travel photo, it's an easy opener: "looks like you've done some traveling, where are you going next" "what places are on your 2014 travel bucket list" If you recognize the city (NYC can be super obvious) "I was just in NYC, had a blast, how did you like it" etc. I word it like this: "hmmm, you kinda look like you could be trouble" or if she looks super slutty I'll be more direct: "yup, you're definitely trouble" There's no script that will get amazing results from every type of girl for every man. The message that you write for a party skank is different from an artsy girl is different from a corporate drone, etc. A quick cold-read of their ethnic background works decently for me at getting replies. Instead I try to be a little sophisticated, then move it of OKC to facebook so they know I'm not going to murder them/text, and then meet up. In a seller's market like this it's best to let the ladies shop for you online. All the work he put in and the one that messaged him he girlfriended up. It's kinda hard when you're interests are programming, drinking and trolling forums.